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Purplehaze · Newbie Joined: 29 Jun 2008 Posts: 2 Career Advice: +0/-0

My son has just received his resit results, he has failed his degree and has no more resit options. He worked hard but he has found it difficult all along. To say he is devastated is an understatement and I thought last year was bad! I am trying to persuade him to go through the verification process but he says there is no point. He is hardly coming out of his room and I fear for his state of mind. He does have a job which is fairly mundane and was taken as a stop gap till he graduated. I'm fairly confident he will go to work tomorrow.
We have always supported him, it was his choice to go to uni in the first place, he was not put under any pressure by us to go into higher ed. I know he is now questioning the wisdom of giving up 4 years and getting into thousands of pounds worth of debt which we are not in a position to pay off for him.
I just wondered if anyone on here has been in the same position and has seen light at the end of what at the moment seems a very dark tunnel or has any words of wisdom which I may be able to help him with? The uni (a traditional British one) has said they will award him a diploma of Higher education.

Worried mum from UK

lexa10881 · Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:50 am Post subject:

I wonder if he can take the degree testing a second time? Or if there was a certain part he failed he can take again? I am not sure how it works there, I am just familiar with the US system. I will tell you I chose the wrong degree and am now pursuing a second one, pushing myself into more debt to get myself on the career path that I want to be on. I think he will come to where he wants to be in due time, he just has to realise that day will not be right away.

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Pauloz · Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 10:54 am Post subject:

Purplehaze

These kids are told the world ends if something like this goes wrong. He needs to know it hasn't. We've seen a few here. This has happened to millions of people, and the next thing to do is move on, not hang around.

I think the rebuilding/regrouping process takes precedence at this point, trying to find options and restore the focus.

It wasn't a total loss, anyway. The DHE will help in some things, and there are also accredited online universities and other colleges which might be able to provide enough credits to do some sort of modular degree using components of what he's done. That way he can shore up the timbers and get moving again, and keep costs under control, doing things at his own speed.

This can, very likely, be turned into something worthwhile, but it will take some patience and some time. A bit of objectivity will be required, but that can be a step out of the abyss for him.

chris2289 · Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 11:51 am Post subject:

With a diploma he can always take a different path in terms of education.

virtually every uni offers a referral year where he can re-take the module(s) he failed. He wouldn't have to do it full time and if it is only 1 or 2 modules he would only do 1 or 2 days

What subject did he take?

Purplehaze · Newbie Joined: 29 Jun 2008 Posts: 2 Career Advice: +0/-0

It was an environmental earth science degree. I e-mailed his personal tutor when we found out 4 months ago that he had failed to ask for some insight into why he had been left to flounder along and fail twice. I got no reply. I resent the e-mail yesterday and got a reply today apologising for them not replying before and saying in as nice a way as they were able that it was his own fault for not asking for advice when resubmitting his dissertation. He is still in the same mundane job but he has since passed his driving test first time which helped him no end, and we are now looking for a 2nd hand car for him. I can't see him ever wanting to go back into education but I suppose he may do one day. At least he is over the darkest days but the reply from his tutor sent me into a decline again today and now I can't sleep! Thanks for taking the time to reply.

chris2289 · Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 3:36 pm Post subject:

No problems. All the best for the future

jeremy_spoke_in · Newbie Joined: 30 Oct 2008 Posts: 3 Career Advice: +0/-0

Your son will get over the dissapointment and has no doubt learned from his mistakes.
Just keep possitive and help him as much as you can by giving him advice and ideas of his options.

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